浅论曾国藩家书中的交友之道

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浅论曾国藩家书中的交友之道

学 院 人文社科学院 专 业 汉语言文学 年级班别 0802 学 号 2008406010225 学生姓名 刘丽娟 指导教师 黄俊杰

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目 录

第一章 曾国藩交友的思想渊源 ........................... 4

一、淳厚古朴的家风对其交友观念的影响 ................ 4 二、受孔孟之道的影响 ................................. 6

第二章 曾国藩的交友原则 ................................ 8

一、交友拜师宜专一 ................................... 8 二、交友必须亲近良友 ................................. 9 三、交友须勤加来往 ................................... 9 四，交友需诚心 ....................................... 9 五、交友勿占人便宜 .................................. 10

第三章 曾国藩的交友类型 ............................... 10

一、早年求学时期曾有过损友 .......................... 10 二、终身的挚友 ...................................... 10 三、学术交流的文友 .................................. 11 四、军中所交之僚友 .................................. 11

第四章 小结：曾国藩的交友原则对后世的启示 ............ 11 参考文献 ............................................... 12 致谢语 ................................................. 12

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浅论曾国藩家书中的交友之道

摘 要：曾国藩是一个争论颇多的历史人物，对其功过是非的评价，仁者见仁，智者见智。近代的章太炎曾评价他说“曾国藩者，誉之则为圣贤、谳之则为元凶。”在当代，刘伯承曾说：“这位曾文正公，其人不可取，但也不要因人废言。”可见，随着时代的发展，人们对曾国藩的评价也能站到一定的历史背景中对其有一个客观的评价，因事而异。《曾国藩家书》记录了曾国藩在清道光二十年到同治十年的翰苑和从武生涯，所涉及的内容极为广泛，小到人际琐事和家庭生计的指陈，大到进德修业，经世治国之道的阐释，是曾国藩一生的主要活动和其治政，治家，治学之道的生动反映。尽管曾国藩平生学术著述甚少，但仅一部家书足以体现他的学识造诣和道德修养，从而赢得“道德文章冠冕一代”的称誉，毛泽东1917年曾说过“吾于近人独服曾文正”。曾国藩少年得志，官运亨通，10年之中连升10级，官至二品。能取得如此巨大的成功，朋友起了不可估量的作用。曾国藩曾说：“一生之成败，皆关乎朋友之贤否，不可不慎也！”可见交友对于一个人的事业，关系重大。交友识人只是《曾国藩家书》中反映曾氏的为人处世态度的一个小小的缩影，本文就《家书》中的交友篇做一个细致的梳理和评论，给今人交友提供一个借鉴。

关键词：曾国藩 家书 交友

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